I just came across a blog in which a pregnant women stated that she didn’t understand why someone would put a miscarriage blinkie or anything related to her m/c in her signature on message boards. My guess is that anyone who’s been through it won’t understand. It’s okay because I probably wouldn’t have “gotten it” either before I went through it myself. I now know that a lost baby is just as much my baby as any of the living ones I have. Soooo, if I mention my children in a signature at a message board, I will certainly mention ALL of them.
It bothers a lot of women who’ve been through miscarriage that the subject seems to be taboo. That, in a lot of situations, women are supposed to hide or cover up the fact they’ve had a miscarriage instead of be up front about it - as if it’s something to be ashamed of. Yes, we will get offended if you imply that we should never say anything about what we’ve been through or about our lost child. That child, no matter how short they were with us, is still a part of who we are, is still a part of our family even if most people will never know.
I understand that those who’ve been through it may not understand and that’s okay with me. I just wish they’d realize that same truth. I just wish they’d realize that they may not understand but that it makes perfect sense from the other side of the fence. I wish they just accept it, not grumble it. Anyway - as hard as it can be to understand for someone who hasn’t experienced a loss, it’s just as difficult to try to explain. So I”ll stop trying.
But, of all the miscarriage blinkies I’ve seen, this is my favorite.
