I love watching Grey’s Anatomy. But recently it seems like there are so many baby issues. Maybe it’s always been like that considering one of the main characters is a infant surgeon, but I guess it just hits me harder now.
The most recent episode reveals that this particular doctor, Addison Montgomery, aborted a baby. She was feeling down because it was her baby’s due date. The father of the baby, another dr, was also affected because of the due date arriving. Of course, this is a different situation from a miscarriage, however, it just reminded me that my EDD (estimated due date) may be a tougher day to get through than I first realized. At first I thought it wouldn’t be that big a deal, but I hear other women talk about it and apparently it is a very big deal.
Now I’m realizing that it will probably be, at the very least, an emotional day for me. I’m finding that certain situations, even though I don’t anticipate them being tough when I think about them, do turn out to be difficult. My feelings continue to take me by surprise on a regular basis. I still cry over the loss of my baby. I probably always will. It’s not something you just “get over” even as an early loss. It’s so sad that many women are treated that way after an early miscarriage especially. They are told to “let it go” or that they should be “over it” already. Most of the time these women are hearing this within a month of losing their child.
I know that those who haven’t been through it don’t know what it’s like, but I hope one day, people will at least understand that even if they don’t “get it,” it can be a very, very difficult time.
One thing that was said in my situation… Someone asked if I was pregnant and another person said, “No, she had a miscarriage.” Then the one that asked about me being pregnant responded with, “Oh, I thought she was really pregnant.”
Uh, I was really (actually) pregnant, but now I’m not. Even so, to me it still “counts” even if it doesn’t to others.
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